by today's Urban Chameleon contributor
A friend of mine recently told me about how her sister just discovered a picture of a naked girl in her twelve year old son's phone. We both had to take a moment and think back to when we were that age how we didn't have that level of communication available to us. The most we could do is enter some number in a beeper that when you turned up side down revealed messages like "See u later" and "I love u". But the reality today is that the technology kids have accessible to them is so advanced that they can use their phone to film a porn and e-mail it. And I wouldn't be surprise if they are already doing so.
There is no question that sex is on the mind at that age and if parents chose to pretend that it's not that's when you end up with a secret grand child whose an unsuccessful version of lil Wayne. So what to do... how do you nurture, guide and temper a child's sexual curiosity?
My friends solution was to try and refocus her nephew's attention. He's a brilliant budding musician and decided to make a deal with him: every year that he works on creating music and enters into competitions she will not only give him $100 but have a listening party for him. He was enthused by the deal.
Now the first thing I said jokingly was, "Girl the ladies will definitely be lined up then!" However, her point is that at least he will be focused on nurturing his talents. She had an excellent point. We can't help that kids will want to explore sex but we can help not making sex their identity.
Condoms in 'extra small' for boys age 12 set for Britain's shelves soon
Extra small condoms for boys as young as 12 could soon be on our shelves.
The Hotshot condoms are going on sale in Switzerland after research found that not enough 12 to 14-year-old boys were having protected sex.
The condoms are likely to end up on sale in Britain, said their manufacturer Lamprecht AG.
Campaign: Extra small Hotshot condoms are being produced in Switzerland for boys as young as 12 (file picture)
A spokesman said the UK would be ‘top priority’ if the company expanded abroad, considering it had the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe.
Nysse Norballe said: ‘At the moment we are only producing the Hotshot in Switzerland.
‘But the UK is certainly a very attractive market since there is a very high rate of underage conception.’
A standard condom has a diameter of 52mm in comparison with the Hotshot’s 45mm. Both are the same length – 190mm.
According to a study of 13 to 20-year-olds, a quarter said that a standard condom was too large.
Hilary Pannack, of teenage pregnancy charity Straight Talking Peer Education, said: ‘We know young people are having sex and if this is what it takes to protect them, we need to go along with it.’